Hey guys..Long time, no post. So I can say I've been so busy but I know that's not the main reason I haven't posted anything in a long time. No excuses, just repentance, receiving forgiveness and carrying on from where I stopped. So the topic today has been on my mind..and I actually journal-ed it in my diary on the 13th of January this year, but have not been able to post it until now.
Dating in this sense is the coming together of a guy and a girl who are attracted to each other for a romantic relationship. This gives them room to get to "know" each other better and later decide if they want to continue to marriage or just break up and either become enemies or stay friends...lol.
Lets go back in time for a bit, in those days when a guy was interested in a lady, he got to know her and met the family to state his intentions. Shortly afterwards, "courting" (which is a form of dating but with marriage in view) began and in most cases marriage followed. Fast forward to these days, another intermediary process has been included..DATING. This happens after a guy sees a lady he likes and then "asks her out" and they start dating. In other words, they get into an exclusive relationship, where they get to know each other more. Sometimes its official and other times its not..lol. I wouldn't have had a problem with this concept as its an avenue to get to know each other but it always has a tendency of derailing or going far from its high minded intentions/ purpose.
Since the goal of dating is to "know" each other, they start meeting frequently, having long conversations, wanting more privacy, sometimes even move in with each other, all in an attempt to know someone better. Mind you in all this time, there has not been marriage in view (even though sometimes they occasionally discuss it). They want to keep "knowing" the person before they commit to a lifetime mistake. Well, the aim is noble but I dare say the process is. This "Dating" has led to a lot of single parenting, abortions, unwanted babies, abandoned children and so on. My question is two-fold, can you know a person fully? how long will you know each other before its enough for marriage or break up? The truth is we can never really know someone fully and new chapters of our lives open up now and then that even surprise us. Lets cut this deception and get serious with our lives. Guys if you find a lady that interests you, check her out, get closer, know what her values and ideals are, her dreams, goals and aspirations, the kind of family she's from. Take your time to pray and ask God for wisdom and direction before the aforementioned. Then if all is well, make a formal declaration of your intentions to her father or any other close leader figure in her life. This helps you to stay on course during the relationship and treat the lady with much regard.
I definitely have a lot to say on this but it will be too lengthy on one post, so I'm going to stop here and pour out the rest of my heart in the next part. Stay tuned guys, God bless.
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