Dating as we know it (PART II)

So just picking up from where I left in the first part of this post... Dating shouldn't be done as something you engage in just because you are attracted to someone but an intentional direction towards marriage. It shouldn't be an exaggerated form of getting to know someone. When you do marry, you will continually be unfolding every part of yourselves which is what makes it fun and exciting. Its no wonder some marriages are dull, because the essential "knowing" has been done during "dating". Instead of having the thrill of newness spice up your marriage, what you get is a dull obligation to someone else. In doing this (keeping your relationship pure), you honor God (at least for a Christian) and because of that you can trust Him to come through for you in marriage and other aspects of your life.
To be sincere with you guys, I think "dating" is a waste of time because I just end up doing things that please my flesh and not my spirit. I don't glorify God with my body by presenting as a "living sacrifice" and fleeing all forms of sexual immorality because dating places a pressure to thread in that way.
Some people are of the idea that dating is a process of trying to see if you guys fit and if you don't, well you move on. But lets take a serious look into this, a popular example used is shopping. Its like going to a store to try out shoes to see which size fits you well. First of all, you should already know your size, not by trying all the shoes but measuring your feet with some measuring tape...lol. (This is a message here people, know thyself using a standard(Christ). Stop trying too many things.)
Secondly, once you know your size and during the process of trying out a shoe, it gets damaged, like the heel got broken or any notable damage to the shoe, you shouldn't expect to receive a pat on the back. You will have to pay in one form or the other for damaging the shoe, because it will be harder to sell a damaged shoe as the value would have depreciated. So can you see the end point of this logic, (its not my idea to compare dating to a shopping exercise by the way...). It shows you that if you must date never damage each other in an attempt to see if you guys fit. You have a responsibility to either leave the person how you met them or add value to them. Now if you're not doing any of these, then I'm sorry to say but you guys aren't DATING you're PLAYING...Have a great day guys. God bless.